My offer for sexual, individual and couple counselling / women’s coaching
Good sex is based on self-knowledge
Interpret body language correctly
You can feel the room crackling with eroticism; but you don’t really know where you stand with your counterpart: Is your (dating) partner waiting for a “go signal” – or does he want to disappear? What role does body language play in the first four minutes of an encounter?
At decisive moments, words lose their meaning and we rely on non-verbal signals: looks, the position of the body, the posture of the head, hand and legs – and facial expressions and gestures. With the uttered words we disguise our true thoughts, but the body never lies. How do I discover my unconscious tricks and movements?
Problem of revelation
Repressed desires, “forgotten” dreams (you learn how to become aware of and express neglected desires), further development in sexuality.
Awareness of own needs
How do I perceive my own needs? Physical and emotional signals. Self-love does not equal egoism: saying “yes” to oneself; “because I am worth it”.
Increasing the capacity for sexual experience
It is not always easy to reveal sexual desires and preferences to your partner. Often shame and insecurity go hand in hand with bringing up sexual dreams. The concerns of being rejected as abnormal are great and form into an inhibition to share with the partner. How do I open up and deal with my fears?
How do I see myself in my professional or private life?
How am I perceived?
Where do I put on which communication hat?
That depends on how I define myself as a person and a woman: emphatic, communicative, striving, working (career) or mother. Often the roles are mixed. Women of all ages have interfaces in life where they want to define, agree and achieve their goals.You often ask yourself: Does the goal suit me at all? Do I have enough strength? What does my environment think about it? How do I get over? How can I reconcile everything with as little stress as possible? How can I make my words heard?
Experience lasting contentment and connection again
Communication problems in the partnership
Self-opening, recognising the core of conflicts, avoiding blame and vicious circles (“We’ve already talked about this” and “It’s all your fault!” – problems and “action-reaction-action-reaction” vicious circle).
What keeps couples together: Tenderness, closeness, intimacy
These values are not self-evident but have to be worked out, cornerstones of a relationship, “My tenderness is not what you want? Let’s talk about it!”
Intercultural communication in partnership
Whether living together with a partner from another culture can work depends on how well the language of the other is understood and whether one wants to overcome differences in beliefs. Intercultural communication succeeds through the development of transcultural skills; positive thinking is part of it, sensitisation of human and cultural differences, understanding the values of the other, working out communication strategies (factual-analytical or emotional) and, very important: asking questions (about different motives, goals and attitudes).
Relationships between partners from different cultures often face a variety of problems. These include, above all, legislation on foreigners, religion, communication and education. Partnership difficulties due to, for example, different religious views are not uncommon in this context. Religious hurdles and different cultural views have to be overcome.
A frequent cause of intercultural partnership problems is communication difficulties. Even if both partners communicate in a common language, there are often misunderstandings because each partner ultimately perceives the language of the other through their own mother tongue.
Terms that cannot be translated into the partner’s language also cause problems. For this reason, it is advisable to learn the other person’s language as well as possible. In this way, unequal power relations can also be avoided.
Tolerance and different views – do not postpone points of contention
Work out solutions together that help both: Agree on compromises. Relationships with different faiths must not lead to unrestrained preference for one religion while another (or atheism) is neglected.
In a couple coaching session, you as a couple define the goals you want to achieve. We find out where communication stumbles and work out solutions together. As a communication psychologist, I show you ways to anticipate emotionally stressful situations so that conflicts can be elegantly avoided. We also defuse already existing conflicts.
A new love in old age
For various reasons, some people over 50 are confronted with the situation of being single again. What can they do with their new life? Many older people living alone would like to have a partnership, share their time with someone, travel together, eat together, go to the cinema or theatre.
But how should you overcome your inhibitions, get involved with a new person again? How soon should you move in together, what about children you bring into the new partnership? What can be an advantage compared to the love of one’s youth? How important is sexuality and what should be considered?
I am also at your disposal as an online coach: no travel time, no fixed appointments. Efficient and cost-effective.
I offer you as an inter- and transcultural couple the space to become aware of cultural imprints, attitudes, experiences and expectations, to deal with them and clarify misunderstandings and reflect on them, to understand and shape the migration process. Depending on the cultural context, some situations can be perceived and evaluated differently, be important or unimportant, unbridgeable or valuable enriching.
I can support you in this, not only according to the theories and approaches of counselling intercultural couples, but also based on my own practical experience in cross-cultural contexts, so to speak, based on my own migration and couple history.
I use Sonja Radatz’s method, in which solutions are worked out together. It is important to me to understand the relationship crises as an opportunity for personal and joint development.
In the initial meeting, both partners have the opportunity to present their own view of the situation and their concerns. Together we clarify whether and at what intervals further talks should take place.
I like to work with video recordings to show how people react in conversations. Body language is an important amplifier of what is said, including gestures and facial expressions. Many of my clients report that it was impressive to observe themselves in a conversation.
The coaching process is flexible and adapted to you as a client. We discuss your situation in the first 30 minutes and check whether I can be the right coach for you. You can ask questions about the process, the conditions and the contract. Only then do you decide – and we make the first real coaching appointment.
I approach each of my clients with a lot of motivation, inspiration and the clear intention to support them. I give impulses, bring clarity to difficult situations and bring about change. The goal is to help people gain a better understanding of their situation and their environment.
I use a variety of tools for this purpose. Let’s get started!
- Duration: 1-1.5 Hrs
- CHF 75.- for 60 Minutes add. 10.- CHF for another 15 Minutes
- Duration: 1-3 Hrs
- CHF 65.- for 1 Hour; CHF 120.- for 2 Hours. Flat rate 3 Hours CHF 175.-
By Phone (I call you)
- Duration 30-90 Minutes (depending on the issue)
- CHF 20.- for 30 Minutes
Online Coaching (Skype, Zoom, Messenger, WA)
- Duration 1-2 Hours
- CHF 25.- for 30 Minutes
Individual pricing is possible, depending on the customer.
- Coaching – One-to-one in person, by telephone and online
- Couple-Coaching – in person
- Couple-Coaching in person, by telephone and online